Yes, divorce is the end of something important, but it's also a beginning. Start here.—Stacy Morrison

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why i wrote this book

I'd been a women's magazine editor for 16 years when my husband told me our marriage was over. At that point in my life, I'd probably edited, read, written or had otherwise taken part in the creation of no less than 1,000 articles about love, marriage, heartbreak, romance, sex and relationships—so imagine my surprise when my divorce turned out to be a completely different experience from what I'd expected:

It was more about loss than anger.
I was fighting to survive, not to win.
I still cared deeply about my husband, even as he was hurting me.
I wanted to forgive him, and myself, the failure of our marriage, instead of hating him.

And the biggest surprise? Everyone else all around me wanted to tell me why Chris and I didn't make it. Even if—make that especially if—they barely knew our story. They were coming up with fast answers, I figured out later, because they were trying to keep the agony of divorce away from themselves, to believe that something like this could never happen to them. That strange, but understandable, reaction is what got me listening, in a deeper way, to all that I was living.

And wow, I really cried a lot.

So I decided to write this book, to show the ordinary and ugly truth of having your life turned upside-down by divorce (to satisfy all those people who wanted to see inside my divorce), but I wrote this book mostly to show the ordinary and beautiful work of stepping away from the ugly and falling back in love with life.